Transformation of thought

This is a submission to the March 2022 Gender Exploration Carnival hosted by Aro By Design on the topic "Transition/Transformation". I've come across several ace/aro bloggers discussing how coming to understand their asexuality paved the way for them to understand their aromanticism (more specifically, I would think of this as how they relate to traditional …

Frustrations with a community

This post was written for the February 2022 Carnival of Aros on the theme "Community" hosted by mesotablar. Here, I express some frustrations with a particular community. I will explain which community towards the end of this post. But first, some cultural context. (Content warning: rape and misogyny discussed in the last (non-italicized) section of …

Friendship, as discussed on my favorite podcasts

This post is a submission to the October 2021 Carnival of Aros hosted by VioletEmerald on the theme of "Friendship." In this post, I will recount two instances in which I had a bit of an emotional reaction to offhand commentary about friendship (in contrast to romantic relationships) on two separate podcasts. And I'll end …

Amatonormativity, intersectionality, and well-being

This post was inspired by the August 2021 Carnival of Aros on the theme of "Well-being and Amatonormativity" and the March 2021 Carnival of Aros on the theme of "Intersectionality and Inclusivity" both hosted by Graces of Luck. Of course, I'm too late to submit to either carnival, but I greatly enjoyed reading the submissions …

Who is my “we”? Belonging, fitting in, and amatonormativity

This is my first submission to the Carnival of Aces. It a submission to the September 2021 Carnival hosted by Blue Ice-Tea. The theme is "The 'We' of Me". "The 'We' of Me" is a curious expression, inspired by a 1952 movie The Member of the Wedding (which, full disclosure, I haven't watched). As quoted …